Finding Your Miss Right
There comes a time in a man’s life that all he needs and desires is to find his Miss Right. A time when he gets tired of jumping from one casual relationship to another. At that time, all he desires is the right woman; someone he’ll build a future with.
Finding your Miss Right could be a little tricky, because you’ve already piled these unnecessary pressure on yourself. Pressure of having to pick a perfect lady who is worthy of being the future mother of your kids.
Relax bro, let go of that pressure. There’s no such thing as a perfect woman. However, there are women out there who are perfectly compatible with you. And the strategies I’ll give you below will help you find one or more of those women.
Are you ready? Okay.
On your marks… Go!
How to Find Your Miss Right
1) FIND YOURSELF FIRST
Hey man, before finding your Miss Right, you have to find yourself first. You’ve to figure out what you really want in life. Have life goals with a feasible plan to achieve them. It’s always best to write down your goals on paper and set a timeline for it. This will help you to have direction in life.
For example, your goals could be in written words as thus;
“By the 20th September 2020, I’ll have in my possession N 15 million, which will come to me in various amounts from time to time”
Then you also write down a plan on how you plan to get the money.
“In order to get this money, I will sell quality goods & services to people”
It would be better if you could be a little more specific about the goods & services you intend to make the millions with.
You can set any type of goals using this format; be it in your education, career, dieting, love life and so on.
So why is setting of goals so important in finding your Miss Right?
Well, setting goals will help you have focus in life. And through focus, you start finding your purpose in life. And only when you’ve focus, direction and purpose in life, that you can truly and efficiently commit to a woman in a serious relationship.
Now, don’t get me wrong; I don’t mean you should wait until you’ve achieved your goals before entering a serious relationship. No, not at all.
However, you should know where you’re heading to. At least, you should be confident to say to yourself:
“By the next 3 yrs, I should be here or there in life”
It is important to note that finding yourself includes having self-love for yourself. That is, being happy with yourself.
Fact is, if you’re not happy with yourself when you’re single.You can never be happy when you enter a relationship.
Never enter a relationship with the mindset that your ‘partner’ will make you happy. No. Enter a relationship with the mindset that your ‘partner’ will add to your happiness.
You alone, is responsible for your happiness. Always remember this.
So the first strategy to finding your Miss right, is finding yourself first.
Okay, to the next one.
2) BE YOURSELF
One of the mistakes men usually make when trying to choose a partner is pretending to be someone else. Maybe they do this in order to win the heart of the woman of their dreams.
Listen to me bro! You don’t have to pretend to be someone else for the right woman to fall in love with you. Always be you, be original.
Now, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t improve yourself. You should always work on you to become a better version of yourself everyday.
The thing is, when you’re pretending to be someone else, you’ll attract the woman who is not right for you.
Maybe on the first date, this woman you really love, who you have been dating in your head for a longtime, tells you she really admires men who are lively; you know, the life of the party kind of men.
Now, you’re more of an introvert. A man who likes his environment quiet and serene. But because she says she loves lively men, you instantly transformed into an extrovert.
That’s a wrong move.
Even if you finally win her over, how long do you plan on pretending to be a life of the party kind of guy who always has something fun to say or do?
Trust me, one day you’ll get tired and show your true self. Then she’ll start saying things like:
“This is not the man I fell in love with” And then, she starts hitting you with legendary women drama.
So always be yourself, if a woman doesn’t like you because you’re YOU. Then she’s not the right one of you.
Let her go and keep looking!
So if you’re a football fan, and a lady you like tells you she doesn’t like football and doesn’t really fancy guys who watch it.
Don’t suddenly pretend to be disinterested in football. No, let her know you love football, and won’t change that about you anytime soon.
You could say something like:
“Ohh really, that’s too bad Hun… So how are we going to do it now? Since I’m a crazy-ass football fan. Well, you just have to cope with me, I promise I’ll cope with your Zee worlds, Telemundos and Korean movies”
You grab? Good
Always be yourself bro.
3) KNOW WHAT AND WHO YOU WANT
This strategy right here is VERY important. Emphasis on ‘very’
You have to know the kind of woman you’re looking for and the kind of relationship you intend to have with her.
I’ll advise you to choose a woman who will keep you on track in the pursuit of your goals. A woman with a like-mind who will believe in you, motivate and advise you.
You don’t need a woman who’ll make you deviate from your path and purpose. Someone who you’re in a committed relationship with has a big effect on how successful you will be in life. So choose wisely bro.
It’s usually best to make a mental list of qualities you want your future lady to have and qualities you don’t want her to have. But don’t make a long list, don’t be too picky bro.
Personally, I just have five qualities in my list currently. I’ll reveal two to you.
Two Qualities My Miss Right Must Have
1. She Won’t be Hot-tempered. This a big no-no for me. I don’t care if a woman is the most beautiful female on earth, if she has a hot temper, I will FLEE from her. My reason is this…I’m very annoying to people that I love. I happen to infuriate people close to my heart a lot. So I don’t need to be in a serious relationship with a woman, who might break my head with pestle or hurt me with anything around her when I annoy her one day.
2. She has to be Open-minded. The thing is, I’m an open-minded person, so I also need a woman who is open-minded too. Someone who’s willing to learn new things and unlearn some old things which are no more logical and feasible. I don’t need someone who just holds on to things or beliefs blindly. I need someone who can see reason, other than her own reason. My future kids don’t deserve to have a mum with a limited mindset.
Okay, you have seen a glimpse of my list. Now, go make your own.
It’s IMPORTANT, that you don’t tell any woman you wish to make a long term partner the contents of your list. If you do, she might just pretend to have all the qualities in your list, especially when she’s desperate to be in a serious relationship with you.
I mean, it’s just like showing examination questions to students before the exam. Everybody is likely to pass, and you won’t know the students who passed truly. So keep your list to yourself and be vetting them as you get to know a woman better.
It’s important for you to also note that a woman mustn’t have ALL the qualities in your list. If she has 4/6, she tried nah, don’t be a strict lecturer jare. However, there are some qualities that should be a ‘must have or must not have’ for you.
Mine is ‘hot temper’
So even if a lady has all the other 4 qualities, and still has a hot temper, I’m letting her go bro.
4) YOU SHOULD BE WILLING TO GIVE BACK.
Nothing in life goes for nothing.
Brother, if you desire to have a healthy committed relationship, you have to make up your mind to put effort and do what is required from you as a partner. That is, you’ll treat her good and tend to all her emotional needs. You will appreciate her, love and be loyal to her.
I mean, you don’t actually expect a woman to be devoted and loyal to you when you constantly give her the feeling that you don’t cherish or care about her. So you have to make up your mind to be a committed partner also.
To the last but not the least strategy.
5) GO OUT THERE AND MEET LOTS OF WOMEN
I’ve already given you necessary strategies you need to find your Miss Right. All that is left for you now is to go and meet a lot of women and put the strategies to work immediately.
You know, dating is a actually a game of numbers, the more women you meet and mingle with, the faster you’re to find your Miss Right.
These posts linked below would you give you an awesome head start when meeting and interacting with new women. So take your time and go through them;
- How To Approach Any Woman, Anytime and Anywhere Part I
- Indirect Approach:How To Approach Any Woman, Anytime and Anywhere Part II
- Direct Approach: How To Approach Any Woman, Anytime and Anywhere Part III
- Three Types Of Women You’ll Meet Out there
- How to Give Any Woman The Best First Date Of Her Life
- Don’t Chase Women: Do this Instead to Get Women to Be Yours
- How to Get a Girlfriend Effortlessly
In the course of finding your Miss Right, you have to find yourself first because you can’t find anyone when you’re still feeling lost.
Remember to always be yourself when you meet new women and have an idea of the kind of woman you would want to be in a relationship with.
Then make up your mind to be a committed, loving and loyal partner yourself.
I wish you an amazing love life bro.
About the Author: Gerald Dike
Gerald Dike is the founder of Relationship Strategies For Men. He has helped thousands of men have better interactions and healthy relationships with women of their dreams. He is also an entrepreneur in one of the biggest countries in Africa.
You can grab his new Book here==> The Attractive Man: How to Become the Man Who Women Desire And Chase