Don’t enter a relationship with desperation
I believe that relationship is like a business negotiation. A give-and-take association.
There are things you want or you have in mind of getting when entering a relationship with someone and you know what you’re willing to give in return. And your prospective partner, also has things she has in mind of getting and what she’s willing to give in return.
Unknowingly to you both, the negotiation often starts during courtship (when you two are getting to know each other newly).
Now, here is where the trick lies, so pay attention.
If you’re desperate to enter the relationship, and she senses it. You’ve given her a higher bargaining power. So you might end up in an unbalanced association. Where she’s getting all she wants from you, while giving you little or nothing in return. Just like the friend zone.
She gets comfortable and start making demands every time. Takes you for granted because she knows you’re desperate to be in a relationship with her. She knows you’ll always be there, no matter how she treats you.
I’ll explain this further with this example below;
Let’s say you’ve just been granted a long term Visa to the country of your dreams.
But you don’t have money for the Flight Ticket and other necessary expenses. So you decided to sell your car, since you’ll not be needing it.
Now, you need to raise the money within 2 weeks or else you miss that opportunity. And you know how hard you worked to get that Visa. So you’re desperately looking for a buyer of your car. The car is worth 4 mil, but you’re willing to settle for 3 mil.
So you finally found a buyer, you tell him the amount you’re selling. You two start negotiating, and then along the line, he sensed your desperation and said he’s going to buy the car for 1.5 mil.
Either you take it or leave it.
Now, you have less than 7 days to the deadline, and you’ve no other hope to see another buyer.
So, you settle for less and accept the deal.
Now let’s check another scenario
You bought a new car, and you don’t really see a need of keeping the old one. So you decided to sell it to have some extra cash to throw around. The car is worth 4 mil, but you decided to sell it for 3 mil.
Then you find a buyer, and he says he’s going to buy it for 1.5 mil. You laugh, and tell him you’re selling it for that 3 million. It’s either he takes it at that price or he leaves it.
When he sees you’re not desperate and mean exactly what you say, he’ll buy. As long as he has the money and is sure that the car is worth the money you priced it at.
SO WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR YOU?
It means you should never be desperate to get a particular lady to be yours.
Never be scared to make your intentions known to her from the start. Tell her exactly what you want to get in the relationship with her and also show her a GLIMPSE of what you’re willing to give in return.
Always be willing to walk away, if she’s not willing to give you what you want.
You’ll also have a higher bargaining power, if you’re of high value. That is, if you’re an attractive man.
So keep working and improving on yourself – financially, emotionally, physically, mentally and the rest.
Always remember to date on your own terms bro! Never settle for less.
Know your worth and don’t chase women.
About the Author: Gerald Dike
Gerald Dike is the founder of Relationship Strategies For Men. He has helped thousands of men have better interactions and healthy relationships with women of their dreams. He is also an entrepreneur in one of the biggest countries in Africa.
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