What Women Want from Men in Relationships

What Women Want from Men in a Relationship:

This post is for Men that are in a serious relationship or are planning on entering one soon. I believe that by the end of this post, you will know EXACTLY what your woman wants from you as a partner or what a woman will expect from you (that’s if you’re not in a relationship at the moment).

The plain truth is that men and women are different. So it’s logical that both expect different things in a relationship from their partners

Now, the mistake most men make, is to think women want the same thing we (men) want in a relationship.

And I think this ”misunderstanding”, is the primary reason for most breakups in relationships.


I made this same mistake years back and if I had known what women want from men, my girlfriend (now ex), wouldn’t have broken up with me. The worst part of the whole breakup thing was that I actually blamed her because I thought that I did everything a good partner should have done, for HER. So I tagged her as an ungrateful individual.


But with time and with some help from lots of books and articles from great dating experts and coaches, I realized that I was actually the one who messed up. But by then it was too late to apologize, because she had moved on.

I really want other men to learn from my mistake and avoid losing an amazing woman. So stay with me.


Okay, according to dating Coach Laurel House, all women want to feel “Safe, Sexy and Seen” by their partners.

I personally call it the “3S”.


Now, lemme break these “3S” down for you one after the other.



The first thing women want from men in a relationship is security. When a woman is in a relationship with you, she expects you to provide certain securities for her. These securities will make her feel SAFE with you.

So, I summarized these securities under three categories.

They include financial, physical and emotional security.

In other words, she wants YOU to make her feel safe financially, physically and emotionally wise.

Am I communicating?

I can see a nod.

Good! Let’s continue.


So let’s talk more about these categories.


Financial Security: This where MONEY comes in.

Money is vital in every relationship.

However, it is not ALL a woman wants in a relationship.

So if you have that mindset that ALL a woman wants in a relationship is money.


Or change the kind of girls you deal with.

And you don’t need to be a millionaire to make the RIGHT woman for you feel safe financially.

A steady income is enough to make her comfortable.


Physical Security: women love a man who can physically protect them. Someone who can be their hero, their knight in shining amour. That’s why you see women tripping for all these courageous and brave men.

They want a partner who can stand up for them when they’re oppressed. Maybe some guy smacked that behind (that kind thing nah).

Personally, I think you can outsource this one, if you have a good financial security.

You might not be brave or strong enough to beat them oppressors but you can arrange for them to be beaten.


However, the next security is very IMPORTANT and you cannot outsource this with money.


Emotional Security: This is one of the reason my ex left me.

I made her feel insecure emotionally.

Pay ATTENTION to this:


“Every woman wants a partner who will listen to her without judging her decisions and actions.

Someone who can create an environment where she can feel SAFE expressing her vulnerabilities”.


I never actually listened to my ex… I mean I heard what she said but I didn’t actually listen and I was always judging her mistakes. This made her feel insecure to share things with me anymore. She was afraid that I might judge her. She couldn’t confide in the one person she wanted to. This made us grow apart.

So making your woman “Emotionally Secure” is very important. Listen to her more and allow her to vent all she wants to and don’t judge her.


I think I’ll make a post on how to effectively listen to your woman later.


Now we move to the SECOND thing she wants from you in a relationship;


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Every woman wants her partner to always make her feel that she’s sex appealing to him.

She wants you to make her feel sexy and wanted.


So don’t stop those long hugs (from the back is really effective).

Those slow kisses and deep sexy stares.

Compliment her body often and when she passes by your side, smack that behind. Whisper those sexy words into her ears.

Satisfy her sexually desires.


Bonus Hint: Never stop seducing your woman.


To the last but definitely not the least, the THIRD thing she expects from you;

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She wants to feel that she’s important to you.

So don’t take her for granted.

Don’t ignore her texts and calls. If for any reason you missed her call, try calling her back as soon as you see it.

Don’t postpone it.


Appreciate her for the little things she does for you. Don’t forget important dates like birthdays and anniversaries.

Take her to romantic dates. This was another area I failed with my ex.

I forgot her birthdays sometimes and I hardly took her out.

So please make your woman feel special.



What women want from men in a relationship is  basically three things, which is to feel Safe, Sexy and Seen by the men in their lives.

Now, I would love you to examine your relationship now, and check which area(s) you’re lacking behind and work towards improving it.

If you truly love the woman in your life, SHOW her! And she’ll love you in return beyond your wildest imagination.

If she doesn’t, then she’s not the right woman for you. Then you drop her immediately.

One of the best things in life is “The LOVE of a SATISFIED woman.”


I wish you an amazing love life bro.


Talk soon,


About the Author: Gerald Dike

Gerald Dike is the founder of Relationship Strategies For Men. He has helped thousands of men have better interactions and healthy relationships with women of their dreams. He is also an entrepreneur in one of the biggest countries in Africa.

You can grab his new Book here==> The Attractive Man: How to Become the Man Who Women Desire And Chase

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