Online attraction: how to know when to approach a lady online

Online attraction: How to know when to Approach ladies Online

Online Attraction

Since most of our life revolves online nowadays, I decided to talk a little about online attraction: how to know when ladies want to be approached online. But first, let me tell you a little about Attraction. The truth is that, “What attracts men to a woman, differs from what attracts women to a man.”

Just like most things about women, their attraction is quite complicated compared to a man’s attraction.

Basically, I’ve summarized what attracts women to a man into three aspects, namely;

  1. Looks. This includes the physical appearance of the man which consists of; how he dresses, good grooming, body physique, facial expression, body posture, and so on.
  2. Personality and his Wooing skills. This consists the man’s charisma, his humor, his style of approach, how he acts around ladies e.t.c
  3. Lifestyle. This includes the man’s social class, who he knows and dines with in the society, how much money he got and so on.

As you can see, women’s attraction is a very complicated and a broad topic. But that’s not what I want to talk about today. I want to talk about Men’s attraction, how women use it to their favor in online attraction and how you can use it to your own favor.


Unlike a woman’s attraction, a man’s attraction is quite simple. Very simple. What attracts a man to a woman is her physical appearance. Simple!

A woman’s personality is just what makes a man want stay attracted to a woman or make her his for life. But most times, I’ve seen men overlook a woman’s bad personality just because of her massive morphological features. I’ve also seen some men fall in love and make up their mind to marry a woman just because he saw her photos online (and they were dead serious).

And I’m sure 60% of guys reading this post where drawn by that sexy women I used as the featured picture. Hahaha!

Women know this fact very well, that’s why you see them go to any length to be beautiful. They’re willing to buy waist trainers, drink Aloe Vera, bitter leaf, buy the most expensive cream, wear push-up, wear make-up, and other extreme things to look more beautiful.

They do this because they’re fully aware (mainly from experience), that a lot of guys approach and chase them when they look more beautiful and ravishing. And the prettier they look, the more they attract more valuable men.

online attraction

Now, let me now dive into the main point of this post. Which is;

How to know when girls want to be Approached Online

When a lady wants to be approached online; as in, she needs some new customers in her life. She does something we call “peacocking.” Marketers call it Advertising. It’s basically putting your goods out there for more prospects to see and probably buy and become a customer.

The time she’s looking for more customers, she’ll take lots of pictures. These pictures focus more on her selling point.

For example, if she knows she has a really fine face, she’ll take the picture in a way she shows more of her face. If it’s her boobs, she’ll also focus more on that, if is her ass, she’ll likely turn back to show it very well.  And if she really has a fine shape; she’ll take more of full pictures. But if she has multiple selling points; she will take multiple pictures where each picture will focus more on one of the selling points.

Next she starts uploading, uploading, and uploading. Nowadays, ladies prefer uploading using stories, probably because when replying ‘stories,’ it directly leads you (the prospect) to her inbox.

Now, have you noticed that some ladies who posted their attractive pictures when single, rarely posts it when they get married. The reason is that they do not need more customers anymore, she has already gotten one customer for life.

Unless she’s a fashion designer, model, actress or into other professions that requires her to continue peacocking. If not she’ll just be peacocking with pictures of her children and husband.

Vetting and Screening: Tools of Online Attraction

Ladies know that it is not every prospect is a worthy customer. In other words it’s not every guy who she attracts while peacocking is worthy of her attention. Hence, when a guy slides into her DM, maybe with a compliment about the picture, they do what is called “Vetting and screening.”

Pay attention here, it’s quite important.

So when a guy slides into the DM with a compliment, let’s use this compliment as a default, “You look amazing!!! I think I’m falling in love.”  And he’s someone that has been chasing and bugging her for a while now, she’ll ignore the message or if she has a good heart or maybe in a good mood she replies with one word, such as; “tnx,” or “thanks.”

But if he’s a totally new guy, she’ll go and check his online profile first, if she doesn’t like what she sees, she ignores the message, or hits him with the one word reply just like the above guy. However, if she likes what she sees she replies the compliment warmly, like “Thank you dear,” “Wow! Are you serious?”

However, if he’s a guy she has been secretly crushing on. She won’t bother checking the profile, because the guy’s profile is already in her memory. She replies the comment and opens a large room for a conversation. Something like this

Conversation between Crush:

Crush: You look amazing! I think I’m falling in love.

Her: Aww…

Her: Don’t fall too deep o. (this will now lead the guy to asking “why?” and the conversation begins…)


Crush: you look amazing! I think I’m falling in love.

Her: Lol. Don’t oo. I don’t want your girlfriend to break my head. (She immediately inquires about the availability of the dude…lol no time)


So what does this mean for you?

Get yourself a good profile picture online to boost your online attraction. And Immediately you notice a lady posting really fine pictures consistently in short intervals on social media; especially on “Stories and Status,” and you like her and you’re ready to mingle. Feel free and slide into her DM.

If she texts you in an uninspiring way, you slide out of the DM immediately. Don’t chase her. But if she responds well, ask her out on a date immediately. Move fast, don’t waste time and don’t dull with new ladies. That’s how we roll in this elite blog.

And you don’t really have to wait to see this before sliding into the DM of that lady you admire. Always have in mind that rejection is absolutely normal. So don’t take it personally.


To your dating success,




About the Author: Gerald Dike

Gerald Dike is the founder of Relationship Strategies For Men. He has helped thousands of men have better interactions and healthy relationships with women of their dreams. He is also an entrepreneur in one of the biggest countries in Africa.

You can grab his new Book here==> The Attractive Man: How to Become the Man Who Women Desire And Chase

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